AITA for “humiliating” my friend for hitting on my cousin?
I (M25) have been with my fiancée Sofia (F24) since we were 20. She’s Ukrainian, and a few years back she got really close to my younger second cousin Alina (F18). Alina’s mixed Russian-American, and when they met at thanksgiving, they clicked. They like cooking together, speaking the same language, and going to church sometimes. After Alina’s mom passed away, she’s been spending a lot more time with us. Her Russian side of the family doesn’t live anywhere nearby, and there’s not a big slavic community where we live.
So here’s the situation. Last weekend, Sofia and Alina drove out to this little bakery a couple hours away for some borodinsky bread. While they were gone, I had some of my friends over to watch the game. When the girls came back, I introduced Alina to everyone, making a point to say she’s my younger cousin. She said hi, all normal. Then the storm outside picks up and we lose the sports channel. We all sat down for dinner, and one of my friends, Matt (27) makes this creepy comment directed at Alina something along the lines of “Forget the game, I could just watch her walk around all night”
The whole table just went silent. Alina froze. She looked so uncomfortable and awkward. And like a minute ago she was talking about being in college.
I said “What the fuck did you just say? That’s disgusting she’s 18” He said something like “that’s legal, why are you so worked up?” I told him point-blank “You’re not welcome in my home anymore. Get out” I may have also muttered something about him being a creep, but honestly at that point I didn’t care. I did also stand up and like wait for him to leave.
Anyways, he left. The vibe recovered quickly everyone had a great time. A bit later, Matt puts on the chat that I publicly humiliated him for no reason, and that I was an awful friend who used this as an excuse to kick him out. He says I could have just said Alina’s 18.
I don’t really think I over reacted. Alina looked super uncomfortable. She lost her mom recently and has been relying on us a lot. The last thing I want is her associating my house with some creepy older guy trying to hit on her. Sofia told me straight up I did the right thing, and that if we hadn’t kicked him out, the message to Alina would have been that it’s okay for men to make her uncomfortable.
Matt also said I was being overprotective, and that plenty of guys would have hit on her before. TBF, I didn’t like the guy that much even before, but he’s apart of my group so I did have to invite them. I would have rather not. AITA? I can see how saying all of that was a bit… embarrassing for him, like unnecessarily so. Also, if another of my friends had said it I may have been a bit less harsh, idk.
This situation demonstrates a few important psychological dynamics. First, Alina is in a vulnerable state after losing her mother. She is forming strong attachments to trusted family and friends, which heightens her sensitivity to social threats and inappropriate attention. Her frozen reaction and visible discomfort are nonverbal indicators of distress, which are often more reliable than verbal complaints in such contexts.
Second, the poster’s intervention reflects a protective and boundary-setting response. By immediately addressing Matt’s comment and removing him, the poster communicated a clear social boundary, prioritizing emotional safety over social politeness. Psychologically, this aligns with assertive caregiving behaviors, which are common when adults perceive potential harm to someone dependent or vulnerable.
Finally, Matt’s perception of public humiliation illustrates the tension between self-image maintenance and social norms. While he experienced an ego threat, the poster prioritized empathy and moral reasoning over preserving Matt’s comfort. This highlights the classic conflict in social psychology between protecting vulnerable individuals and maintaining group harmony. The poster’s awareness of possibly being harsh shows reflective judgment and self-regulation, balancing assertiveness with consideration for social consequences.
This is what the community had to say:
Becalmandkind: NTA. Even if Alina was older, it’s an inappropriate comment about your family member. You all were not in a bar, you were in a family home. He’s a creep and you made the right decision to kick him out.
Alina is 18 and being protective of her is the right thing to do. Matt doesn’t get to decide the appropriate level of protectiveness you have for your cousin. Your care for her warms my heart.Zestyclose-Height-36: Nta. 18 is way too young for him, and you are not required to let a creeper who hits on your cousin under your roof. He is way too old to chase after teenagers.
Character-Promise487: NTA. His remark was creepy and sexist regardless of how old the woman was. I imagine he thought his remark should have been taken as a compliment but he’s basically telling your cousin that her body/appearance is there for his entertainment. When you called him out on it he doubled down with the “that’s legal’ which is also all kinds of gross. I agree with your girlfriend that if you had let him stay or laughed it off it would have sent a message to your cousin that his behavior was acceptable. Good for you for standing up for your cousin and being protective.
StarsForget: NTA. You can still be inappropriate while following the law, legal doesn’t always mean good. You did the right thing making your home feel safe for your cousin, and sending a message to everyone that your home is a creep-free zone. He was treating her like decoration and you shut it down. Everyone but him was happy about that.
Now he’s being a little whiny baby? Not even apologizing for embarrassing her? Block him, and let your group know you blocked him so they’ll know its okay if, like you, they were putting up with him because he’s “part of the group.”MorganFreemanCoPilot: NTA. Once Matt knew that he offended you, he should have apologized instead of doubling down with the “18 is legal” remark. The group chat remarks sealed the deal: he’s disrespectful. Even if plenty of guys had hit on Alina before, it didn’t need to be one of your friends in your home, especially not knowing the lay of the land.
You mentioned that Matt is a part of your friend group and that you had to invite him. I’m going to hard disagree with this. You shouldn’t have to invite anyone that you don’t care for and make it clear to everyone that while you’re adult enough to avoid Matt at future functions and outings, he’s no longer permitted in your home.
There are far too many Matts out there thinking their behavior is the norm and acceptable. Thanks for being one of the good ones, OP.KaliTheBlaze: NTA. Ewwwww! Your friend was being an absolute creep, and what’s worse, when you called it out, instead of being embarrassed about it, he doubled down on part of what made it creepy. (The line itself would have been creepy no matter her age.) You absolutely did the right thing. And you don’t have to invite people you dislike just because they’re part of a group. You may get asked why, so it’s worth being ready with an answer, but I’m guessing this isn’t his first misbehavior of this sort, so the answer seems obvious – I don’t like how he treats women and I don’t want that in my home.
MJCuddle: NTA: Her age isn’t even the main issue. Creepy comments towards any of your friends should not be tolerated. Thank you for calling him out. More people need to speak up to protect all women from being sexualized in “casual” conversation.
HoldFastO2: NTA. That was a creepy asshole comment entirely on its own, even if Alina were of the same age as Matt. Was there really no better way he could think of to say “she’s pretty”?
You did the right thing here. Creeps deserve to be called out for their behavior, and girls like Alina deserve to feel safe among their family.Redd1t42069: NTA – Great job! Your friend Matt disrespected your house and family. Not your friend.
I had a problem with my friend saying something like that once about my sister but he immediately apologized when confronted.
A real man would have apologized to Alina and asked forgiveness to be allowed back in the house, and promised it wouldn’t happen again.
Everyone makes mistakes; how we react to those mistakes defines our character.StorageAlive: NTA- but not for the age (which he might not have known/guessed at first). I would just generally find it inappropriate for a guy to make comments on my friends/relatives like that at dinner. If he was interested in her he could have tried to talk to her in a normal way. Also the „it‘s legal“ comment is usually a red flag.
kelfupanda: It wasnt appropriate at all. So NTA.
Clearly Alina didnt feel the same way additionally, so its not like if he spoke to her politely and privately that anything would happen.Lalalopsi-i: Now Alina will always remember you as the cousin who would actually protect her. You’ve created a space for her to come to you for help. Good job. He verbally harassed her. Point blank period. And you put a stop to it.
RunEastern6602: Men like you are what the world needs more of. You seen how uncomfortable she was, she’s a young girl and he’s a grown man. He’s a pervert I hate when adults say a child is legal yeah you’re a pervert mf. I guarantee your girlfriend and Alina look at you as a safe space. Someone they can feel safe with because you nipped it in the butt. She is 18 and they don’t know how to respond to unwanted advances. Sadly women are so scared of men they don’t even want to say no for fear of being hurt because weirdos can’t accept rejection!
Your parents should be proud they raised a real man!SweetDreamOfTheAbyss: We need good men calling out the shitty ones. It’s how we finally put an end to rape culture. Not allowing his remarks to stand also signals to every other man that the same thing will happen to them if they act so badly.
And he SHOULD be embarrassed. What he said was gross. And he is shunned from all future events at your house. He will either learn to be better behaved, or he will go be shitty somewhere else.AstraRose27: NTA, and you should consider talking to your other friends about not bringing him around again. Most people who make comments like that willingly only do so because they’ve had no one to call them out on their bs. You did the right thing, OP.
alexlp: NTA. You did the right thing and confirmed to her she’s safe in your home. Great job
Moose-Live: Matt’s behaviour was creepy and disgusting. Pushing back when you called him out makes it even worse. Maybe he needs to consider that he humiliated her by speaking about her as though she was a piece of meat.
NTA. The thing to consider is that what he said would be inappropriate regardless of her age.1568314: Her age is honestly irrelevant here. Whay kind of guest talks that way about another guest in a friend’s home? This isn’t a 60byeat old cartoon where you can treat the young woman as a punchline where the joke is just “I would have sex with her.”
He wasn’t hitting on anyone. He made a random, creepy, objectifying sexual comment about one of your guests that made everyone uncomfortable. He humiliated himself when he showed that he thinks that’s an acceptable way to hit on a woman.TimeCondition5004: NTA you did just say shes 18, he pushed it. If he didn’t want to be called a creep he should have kept his mouth shut.
Jaded_Point_6477: NTA. Congrats! You’ve now got a great reason not to invite him to your house, and you don’t have to tolerate his presence anymore, which is a total win because he’s a creep.
Like, that was a creepy thing to say even if she wasn’t 18. It wasn’t even flattering, it was objectifying, it would make more women uncomfortable than entirely flattered and that’s kind of the point, it’s a kind of power differential comment, you’re not a person, you’re just eye candy kinda thing, and then doubling down with ‘that’s legal’, yeah he’s a creep, and he’s driving other women out of your social group btw. People who aren’t creeps just won’t want to join in or hang out as much.Firefly-ok: NTA
You absolutely did the right thing. Thank you for standing up for Alina and calling out a man being creepy. This is what I as a woman would want from the men in my life. You did a good thing and I hope you continue to stand up for what’s right. Matt was being a creep.Hexas87: NTA and well done for standing up for your cousin. Matt is a creep and his comment about other guys hitting on your cousin is just him projecting his own creepy mind on others. I would not be friends with a dude who thinks any of this is appropriate.
SunshinePalace: NTA. On behalf of all women: thank you for standing up for her.
beyondmash: Nah being creepy to your cousin is off limits. He’s an asshole, no respect.
Yer_Auld_Da: NTA Legal doesn’t make it decent. If they don’t remember the same kids shows as me I won’t go near them. Your friend is a predator in the making, and yeah, plenty of guys might hit on her, but a lot of them will be age appropriate, some won’t be, they’re creeps, but you can’t control people in public, but this happened in your house. Good riddance to bad rubbish.
It wasn’t unecessarily embarrassing, if he apoligised and laughed it off and moved on, sure, maybe, but “she’s legal” like nah buddy. Kicking him out was legal too.TruckInformal1732: NTA. You did the right thing.
swillshop: You did great, OP! NTA
- So Matt thinks if’s perfectly normal and fine for HIM to say something that objectifies and embarrasses women, but ooooh it he is publicly humiliated if someone tells him that his choice of language is not acceptable.
- You did say Alma is just 18, and he DISMISSED that and challenged you.
- There’s a good reason you never liked that guy before.
- He has been a part of your friend group, but that doesn’t mean you have to have him in your home or invite him to anything. There will be a shift in how the group interacts no matter what. Because his view of women and his lack of boundaries is now known. Some of the group won’t think it’s a big deal; others (like you) will. Some will continue to invite him to things; others will also stop. This guy isn’t repentant. In fact, he’s going to insist that he can say what he wants and continue to play the victim when someone calls him out on it. You can’t protect your friend group from changing or control how it changes. You can only hold firm that he is no longer welcome in your home. (I would say ‘unless he sincerely apologizes,’ but I just don’t think he can or will do that.) And you can only decide how you go forward when he’s invited for other group gatherings. (You may attend and just limit your interaction with him; you may pass; you may start to focus on spending more time with the guys who don’t tolerate that behavior either…)
Illustrious_Band8500: Even if Alina was 80, the lack of social awareness of your friend is hilarious. And the other friend saying “you humiliated him” Same. He could’ve talk to you in private and tell you “maybe you were a little harsh on him” and then explain why you were not. Both sound like massive idiots. NTA
Tree_Chemistry_Plz: NTA. Matt embarrassed himself by not behaving appropriately in the first place. Reinforce what you said, tell him that he embarrassed himself by being a predatory creep, by not knowing how to act in polite company, and by showing everyone exactly how close to being the kind of guy fathers of daughters have to worry about. Pile on the scorn, and teach him there are other men who won’t accept his predation. He’s whineing bc he knows you called out exactly what he was doing.
And that thing about “other guys would be the same/treat her the same?” respond with “yeah, so she needs good men in her life to protect her from them and to show her she doesn’t have to be treated like a piece of meat, tf is wrong with you that you justify your behaviour by appealing to the behaviour of the worst of our society? if that’s the company you want to keep, go to a registered sex offenders support group, since you’re so like-minded”James-the-greatest: Jesus fucking Christ who says that. NTA and someone who is that forward and brash is going to make all women not just uncomfortable but unsafe.
Women are on average half our strength. They really are walking around with giant predators, not knowing which one is nice and which one is nasty. He just announced to the world he’s very very nasty. Fuck that guy and well done for being protective.
NTAAryanirael: NTA. Thanks for being a truly good man and ally. Neither Sofia nor Alina will ever forget how you stood up for Alina (and by extension, all women).
cumgod8: Clear NTA I just wanna share some perspective: you live in the US where the legal age is 18, but in many countries it’s 16, or even 14 (for example Hungary, where I live) and creeps like Matt who use the “but she’s legal!” excuse to hit on teenage girls, they use the exact same reasoning here to hit on 15-16 year old children.
Their thinking isn’t “well she’s an adult at 18 and the age of consent is 18, so I can hit on her” but more like “she’s the youngest and most vulnerable person here and also happens to be just above the age of consent” and if said age of consent was, let’s say 15 he’d be preying on 15 year olds.always-about-me: Well I don’t think you overreacted at all. He said something highly inappropriate. What did he expect to happen.
TiredMum85: NTA. He embarrassed himself. Even everyone else went silent after what he said. Well done for standing up for your cousin, especially as you saw she looked uncomfortable. We need more men like you around.
X-Himy: NTA. Look, regardless of the age, that’s a creepy fucking comment that shouldn’t be said. Like honestly, does your “friend” have idol portraits of redpillers?
ThrowRA_SNJ: NTA. She’s been through a lot losing her mom that young and you’ve stepped up to help her. The last thing you want or she needs is to feel uncomfortable in a space you’ve let her turn into somewhere safe. I think it’s creepy to say that unprovoked about anyone that’s a stranger especially someone that young. I know people will probably say boys will be boys or guys make comments like that all the time in bars or whatever but this is not that situation.
You did not humiliate him HE humiliated himself making such a gross comment. You reacted accordingly to protect someone that was clearly uncomfortable.Sorry_I_Guess: NTA, and he absolutely deserved a public shaming.
The man is closing in on 30 and not just “hitting on” but making sexual comments about a literal teenager. And then when he was called out for his inappropriateness, instead of apologising, he doubled down in the grossest way by noting that … sex with this particular teenager “wouldn’t be a crime”? WTF? As if that makes it in any way ethical or anything but appalling?
It was not “unnecessarily” embarrassing for him. It was very, very necessary, particularly because it seems that even a public shaming isn’t enough to get him to understand how problematic he is.
Good for you. But please don’t question yourself over this. Your instinct was to make sure that your young cousin felt safe and comfortable in your home, and that’s a great instinct.MattDaveys: If the only reason you had a problem with what he said was because Alina was 18, then E S H. Otherwise NTA
Puzzleheaded_Tour809: NTA. Regardless of Alina being 18 or your cousin, that guy sexually harassed her. You did exactly what you were supposed to do: defend her, and refuse to normalise what that creep was doing.
Hopefully, he will think twice before doing something like that ever again.MyPervyAlternate: NTA. He says you humiliated him? “That’s legal, why are you so worked up?” isn’t the response of someone who has been humiliated. Toning down the harshness wouldn’t have made him more self-conscious.
There is no way to take “I could watch her walk around all day.” and make it not creepy. It’s predatory. And he wasn’t even ashamed that she heard it. You did right.friendlily: NTA.
You did say she was 18 and he doubled down.
You did not humiliate him. You called out his creepy, gross and UNWANTED behavior.
You asked him to leave to protect and respect your cousin.
You are a good dude and did exactly what you’re supposed to do when your friends act this way.
Him blaming you shows that he’s not taking responsibility for his gross behavior nor reflecting on why you would react this way. It’s too bad that he is not learning from this but you did not do anything wrong.phlopit: He’s ill-bred. He weeded himself out of the circle of trust.
Van_Schwank: NTA and this is why I avoid “friend groups.” I have my friends and my friends have their friends. Obviously sometimes they overlap, but I am not inviting someone to my house I don’t care for.
Popular_Scarcity_911: Plenty of others probably will hit on her. That doesn’t mean they.will be crude about it. Great job for calling him on his bad behavior.
HungryMagpie: NTA that was great!
Honestly guys just being silent when other guys say creepy shit is why creepy shit keeps being said.
You did exactly what needs to be done. Do NOT accept the “for no reason” crap. You know the reason.just_peachy1000: nta. at all, but not for the age difference.
i think you were wide of the mark making this about age. if your cousin was 25 would that have really made his comments any better? Those comments are overly sexualised, and directed at your family member, that is closer to sexual harassment more than anything else. That was not flirting or hitting on. I don’t any women that would have felt that was a compliment, especially in the context your friend said it. it was simply a lewd comment that had no place regardless of your cousins age.
Matt has revealed himself as a creep, he didn’t apologise when you kicked him, he didn’t apologise when he messaged you. so do yourself a favour and lose him as a friend.WaxenThread: NTA. Matt’s “legal” comment was creepy; Alina clearly froze.
Individual_Metal_983: Regardless of age, the public comment about watching her warranted a public rebuke.
Guy’s a creep.
NTAAlertResolution: i’d say you overreacted until i read “Thats Legal”
Nope, won’t be friend with someone who find an 17/18 year old “Legal” for his pleasure and entertainment. I’d go a bit further warning others not to invite him in their house if they have younger female siblings/cousins living with them.Any_Art_1364: NTA, if Matt is part of your friend group chances are he is in his twenties too, he is a creep and a predator. You did the right thing, both in protecting Alina and showing her this type of behaviour is unacceptable. Him saying “she’s legal” is vile, and his excuses are pathetic and just highlight how much of a creep he is. You did great, and you wouldn’t need to be “overprotective” if men like Matt didn’t treat 18 year old women like prey
LolaSupreme19: Why did anyone need to know what Matt thought about Alina? He learned a life lesson. NTA
MsBlis: NTA. and please continue to do this to all men who sexualize women and make women uncomfortable. please don’t allow anyone close friend or not continue to get away with this behavior.
Harrypottah001: NTA. Even just reading the comment wants to make me vomit. Who hits on a friends cousin when you’re at dinner????
Grosumballs: “I could have just told him she was 18”
You DID! And he still acted like he did nothin wrong!Turbulent-Arm-8592: NTA. She was uncomfortable and your friend was being creepy and inappropriate. She might be legal but that is definitely gross of him. I’m glad she has you watching her back. This world would be a lot safer for women if more men actually held their friends accountable and stood up for us.
ThiefyMcBackstab: NTA. Instead of apologizing, your buddy doubled, trippled, and quadrupled down.
DontTouchMyCupcakez: NTA make sure to remind him that you did tell him she was 18, and he made another creepy comment about her being legal. You did the right thing, and I’m sure she is grateful you stood up for her.
Queen_Sized_Beauty: NTA. If men want women to trust them, they need to stand up for us and show other men that this behavior is shitty.
Thank you for being one of the good ones, I wish more men actually cared.23stop: NTA by your cousin’s reaction before and after its obvious. Your “friend” is an absolute AH and seems to think he’s entitled to do as he pleases. Even when no one was comfortable with it. Good on you for having your family’s back.
writerfreckles: NTA. This is a good example of using your male privilege for good. Calling out friends when they are being creepy.
Magdovus: He wasn’t hitting on her, he was perving loudly. That’s seriously different. He could have actually tried to spend time with her and maybe that would have been ok but he just went for the blatantly unpleasant approach.
Brave_anonymous1: NTA.
Who are these friends, that are saying you were harsh? 27 year old single dudes? I cannot imagine any female genuinely thinking you were harsh in this situation.
The problem is not being hit on. The problem is being hit on and made uncomfortable during the storm, with a bunch of elder dudes, and in the safe space for her. It is very different from being hit on by some creep on the street.
You did good for her. It will really mess up her head if you did stand up for her, and your space will become really unsafe for her.Ok-Essay5202: if a man can’t respect your house, your family, and your rules, he doesn’t deserve your table.
Extra-Geologist-1980: I’m pretty certain in my assumption that she finds your home a safe space.
Absolutely NTA. She is a vulnerable young adult, going through the wringer after losing her mother. She needs your home to be her safe space.
Your friend is a creep. Whether other men would hit on her elsewhere is completely irrelevant. It happened in a space she finds comfort, and if you had not stood up and made him leave, that safe space for her wouldn’t feel so safe.
If he didn’t want to be “publicly humiliated,” then maybe he needs to address his behavior.
You handled it perfectly. I can’t say I’d have handled it quite as well. 👏👏younotenertained: NTA You’re a young dude who stood up to your friend in a safe and friendly place. I’m sure it was heat of the moment and shit but, you made sure your family was safe and they know it now. It’s stupid that it does in this day and age but it takes courage to call out wrong/shitty behaviour and I think you nailed it op. Also you didn’t humiliate him, he did, you just shone a light on it and he doesn’t like that. Boo hoo don’t be a fucking predator man. You already seem to be and I’m sure will continue to be, a better man than him
Slayerofdrums: NTA. The comment was creepy and sexist. Some ppl like to deal with this in a less harsh way ‘hey dude, not ok, cut that out’ etc, but this was your house and if you want to have a 0-tolerance policy when it comes to this, more power to you. Matt till hasn’t gotten the message…if you don’t want to be humiliated, don’t act like an a-hole. His response to this should have been an apology, both to you and your cousin. Don’t invite the guy again, he has not learned anything from this. And instead of being worried about being too harsh, you should feel proud about creating a safe environment for young women.
saragIsMe: Fuck I wish my sister’s boyfriend did the same to his friends when I was a minor
godbyzilla: NTA he gave you a solid reason to cut him off.
ConfectionExtra7869: NTA. He was being creepy, and you stood up for your cousin. This gives you more reason not to invite him back.
ScaryButterscotch474: NTA He could have said the same thing and you would have said nothing if it were well received. But it was not well received and dude can’t read a room. He made someone feel uncomfortable and then he doubled down. Yuck.
No-Parsley-9280: NTA. He claims you embarrassed HIM in front of your friends? How about his behavior toward Alina, publicly and in her earshot? How about HER embarrassment? What makes him think he can make such comments and treat women as objects? Dude needs to grow up. He is going to get punched someday.
YamAncient3543: NTA, if more men reacted like this when they see women harassed we would live in a safer world.
irresponsibleshaft42: NTA nobody is talking about any of the girls in my family like that in front of me, weird as fuck thing to say, might as well ask if you can smash my mom while your at it
Ok-disaster2022: NTA and good job holding your former friend responsible for being rude to women.
Your home is a place of comfort to the women in your life, not a singles bar for your friend to make uncomfortable comments.guimoura413: NTA. At all times, your attitude was just instinctive – Defending your cousin – and you’re right! I agree, especially with your statement that you noticed discomfort on her face. She sees them as a shelter away from her family and it really wouldn’t be nice if she associated the friendly get-togethers with something negative. I even thought that maybe you were a little grotesque in telling him right away that he was no longer welcome in your house – like “Maybe you could have said this in private so it wouldn’t sound demeaning” – but if it had been in the form of a conversation, he would probably have shrugged his shoulders and continued. Great attitude.
opelan: NTA. With the age gap it is creepy. But even if Alina was 27, too, that statement would feel kind of inappropriate in that group setting at OP’s home. It is kind of just reducing her to her body and looks.
SafetyFluid8535: NTA and thank you for standing up for your cousin!! First, even if she was 27 like Matt, it’s still a creepy thing to say to someone, especially someone you just met. Second, not saying something would be letting him be a creep, and send the message to your cousin (and all the women there) that you’re not a safe person (guys who support other guys saying this are the same guys that don’t believe women) and tells Matt that you condone his behavior. Third, if you didn’t tell him off he’d keep doing it – he banks on people not wanting to make a scene so he can say what he likes and won’t stop until they’re publicly humiliated. Fourth, you did say she was 18 first and his response was to get double creepy – older men who hit on teenagers and defend it by saying she’s legal implies he’d hit on even younger girls if it weren’t illegal. I imagine if he had reined it in instead and apologized you wouldn’t have kicked him out. Honestly, if I was your fiance I’d be seeing a huge green flag. Good job and hopefully the other men who saw you do that will follow your lead in the future!
asuperbstarling: NTA. Who the actual hell makes sexual comments about someone’s teenage family member in their home in front of them. At ALL would be bad, but it’s a trifecta of stupid and creepy. She won’t forget you protected her.
Unfair-Case-2504: It’s not that Matt hit on Alina, but Alina did not like Matt’s line and he should have apologized. And Matt is the AH for doubling down instead of apologizing at least.
NTA.
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